Just wanted to let you all know that I have a new blog. I will probably still blog here, but I have some stuff going on in my life that I want/need to write about that isn’t marriage related, so I started a blog to write about that stuff there. Here is the link if any of you are interested. 🙂
One of the many things that I love the most about my husband is how genuinely supportive he is of me. He has proven his supportiveness time and time again on a nearly daily basis, and is probably THE most amazingly supportive person I have ever known in my entire life.
In the past week or so I have been pursuing finding myself a new job. I have been at my current job as a grocery store front end manager for nearly five years, and have been unhappy there since day one, but the pay is decent with good benefits, plus for a while my husband and I had only one car and our schedules just worked out where we were, so I was pretty much stuck with having to keep the job. Lately things at work have gotten a lot worse, to the point of being unbearable: my boss is on worse of a war path than usual, and then two weeks ago we were robbed while I was at work; thankfully no one was hurt, but I’m having a really hard time dealing with it, and I’ve been a nervous and paranoid wreck ever since. So I’ve finally had enough of my current job and have taken the initiative to find myself a better job. I wish that it didn’t take me so long to take this step, and that it didn’t take something so dramatic and traumatic to get me to do so, but I’m typically not good at dealing with change, so the thought of dealing with everything that comes with changing jobs is pretty terrifying to me. But it is obviously time.
Throughout all of this, my husband has been incredibly supportive, from trying to help me with the robbery, to putting in my first job application today at a bank, and I know that he will be just as supportive if/when the time comes to actually go on a job interview and start a new job. It means the world to me, having such a supportive husband, because I wouldn’t be able to go through this without him.
Today my hubby spoiled me by taking me to Bath & Body Works to take advantage of the huge sale that they have going on. He knows how much I like to get new good smelling lotion and how much I was really wanting some new lotion. Between the buy three get two free sale and the coupon I had, I got five lotions (over $50. worth) for $23. I love my husband for doing this for me, because even though he doesn’t really like going to Bath & Body Works, he did it anyways because he loves me and knew how much it would mean to me.
The hubby and I had a good day today getting ready for Christmas.
We went to several places to do most of our Christmas shopping. It felt good to do because I love giving my loved ones gifts, plus we weren’t sure if we were going to be able to afford Christmas gifts this year, so it was a huge relief to the both of us to be able to pull it off.
Later on in the afternoon we went over to my hubby’s dad’s house for dinner and Christmas decorating. We all had so much fun putting up the tree and just spending time together. It meant a lot to my husband especially, because we aren’t able to get all of us together at the same time very often, and I was the one who suggested it all because I knew how much it would mean to him. After we were done decorating, my father-in-law took us and treated us all to go see a huge Christmas lights display. It was so fun and beautiful…freezing, but great!
So, overall it was a great Christmas-y day. I just wish that I was in more of a Christmas mood, but for whatever reason I’m not yet. It just doesn’t quite feel like Christmas to me yet, but I’m getting there.
Tonight the “Christmas funk” set in. It doesn’t affect me every year, but 2011 has been a rough year, so the holiday season has brought out more emotions than usual, and tonight I just broke down and cried. My husband, the wonderful man that he is, was holding me in his arms and consoling me, helping me calm down, and since he knows how much I enjoy writing/blogging, he suggested that I blog about my hopes for our marriage in 2012. So, in honor of my amazing husband, here are some of my hopes for our marriage in the upcoming year…
I hope that our marriage continues to grow stronger. This past year we found our marriage really struggling at times, so hopefully 2012 brings more growth, strength, and love, and less struggles and set backs.
I hope that we are able to have more financial security. The last half of this year we’ve barely been able to keep our heads above water and pay our bills, so I’m hoping that we can somehow save some money this upcoming year.
My husband has promised to try to be more healthy, so I hope that we can help each other to take better care of ourselves so that we’re both around and together for a very long time to come.
I hope that my husband and I can grow as Christians and be each other’s motivation and encouragement to do so. I want to become closer to God, spend more time reading my Bible, and just be an overall better person.
What are your hopes for your marriage in 2012?
I love my husband because he makes me feel safe. I know that he would do everything in his power to protect me and make sure that I feel safe and secure.
So, how exactly does my husband make me feel safe? He kills bugs for me even though he doesn’t like them, because he knows that I’m scared of them. For whatever reason, sirens kind of scare me, especially at night, so whenever we’re together and we hear sirens, he’s always so sweet and cute about wrapping his arms tightly around me or sometimes covering my ears with his hands. I suffer from anxiety, so whenever I get anxious about something or have the occasional panic attack, he always does his best to calm me down. Just to name a few! 🙂
What are some of the things that your spouse does to make you feel safe?
“Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory.” ~ Romans 15:7
It is easy to be accepting of someone when they act the way that you want them to. But what about when they do something that you wish they wouldn’t do? Then acceptance becomes a bit more difficult to achieve, doesn’t it?
Sometimes, as much as I love my husband, he does things that irritate me. When he does something that I wish that he wouldn’t do, it becomes more of a challenge to be completely accepting of him. It doesn’t make me a bad wife or mean that I love my husband any less, it just means that sometimes it takes more hard work and effort to be completely accepting of him.